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[dondewey]

To be fair... maybe they won't show. Lol.

Shortly after SWMBO and I were married, we lived kind of in the middle of a series of 1 acre lots. IIRC we had at least 5 direct neighbors and the way things were setup could see into a couple more yards. SWMBO decided to have a "get to know the neighbors party since we were new to the neighborhood. I think she invited maybe 10 houses total...

One neighbor came. Of course it was the one we were already acquainted with.

Sop maybe you're onto something.






She's jonesing to do this again at our new house. FML

My parents subdivided their lot and built a new house for themselves, one more single house, and 6 duplexes. So, 14 total "families". 12 of them participate in weekly game/card night, and a separate restaurant outing. Plus, lots of other events. It's completely insane. How did these strange social creatures all end up next to each other?

[Big Nake]

My parents subdivided their lot and built a new house for themselves, one more single house, and 6 duplexes. So, 14 total "families". 12 of them participate in weekly game/card night, and a separate restaurant outing. Plus, lots of other events. It's completely insane. How did these strange social creatures all end up next to each other?

Right.  My parents grew up in Chicago proper.  Moved to the burbs and made new friends.  On the street where I grew up, the neighbors did everything together.  There were block parties, clam bakes, pig roasts, pinochle night, women's club, etc.  These people went out to dinner with each other.  They went on vacation together!  No way I'm going on vacation with the Klopeks.  No sir.  

[dondewey]

Lol. 3 of them have winter houses. My parents generally go stay in AZ and FL with them every year. And their neighbors have stayed at my parents condo in San Diego! They just built the houses like 8 years ago, so it's not like their kids grew up together or anything.

I did not inherit their social genes.

[SnowMan]

How are their pineapple decorations?  Upside down?

[dondewey]

I didn't notice any last time. I kind of doubt it, but whatever floats their boat.

[Augie1991]

Amazon gift cards are probably the most win in the gift card universe.

[Sidney Porter]

Take pictures of them coming and going. Arrange on a nice, big poster board. Give it to them.

that's not a bad idea

[Sidney Porter]

Gift card = sorry I was loud, here is some money to make up for it.


Gift of food / booze = sorry I was loud go enjoy yourself

Gift of a social gathering = sorry I was loud can we be neighborly

[Vagus]

Gift card = sorry I was loud, here is some money to make up for it.


Gift of food / booze = sorry I was loud go enjoy yourself

Gift of a social gathering = sorry I was loud can we be neighborly

Pictures - be thankful im loud, you wouldn't like me when I'm quiet.

[Dave McG]

You weren't being loud, you were raising the average property value in the immediate area.

[porter]

We live in town in an area with 0.5-2 acre plots. We are acquainted/cordial with our neighbors, have each other's phone numbers to call or text if needed about something pertaining to the neighborhood, but that's about it. I wouldn't not pursue a friendship if it seemed right, but my neighbors don't need to be my friends, and I'd prefer they not be. There are plenty of people living on all the other streets in town who I can be friends with, if needed.

That would apply in any living scenario. I'm on a 3-5 year plan to relocate my family to the mountains rather than the suburban foothills, but the same rules would apply regardless.

Edited by porter, 24 January 2023 - 07:20 PM.

[MakeMeHoppy]

Have you considered a jelly of the month club. Nothing could go wrong there

[Vagus]

We live in town in an area with 0.5-2 acre plots. We are acquainted/cordial with our neighbors, have each other's phone numbers to call or text if needed about something pertaining to the neighborhood, but that's about it. I wouldn't not pursue a friendship if it seemed right, but my neighbors don't need to be my friends, and I'd prefer they not be. There are plenty of people living on all the other streets in town who I can be friends with, if needed.

That would apply in any living scenario. I'm on a 3-5 year plan to relocate my family to the mountains rather than the suburban foothills, but the same rules would apply regardless.

If i lived in your hood, id be on a .5 acre lot with no house. We'd text every day.

[badogg]

The gift card thing would be weird for me if I was the neighbor on the receiving end.

I'd much rather have someone come over and just say "hey man, I know it's been a little loud lately and I'm sorry. If you want to hang some time bbq and beverages are on me"

And leave it at that.

[zymot]

A gift card feels too impersonal.  I'd go with inviting them over.  If they don't want to hang... it's on them. 

 

Not all neighbors want to be personable. Inviting them over could put them an uncomfortable spot.

 

A gift card is the neutral way to a show a sincere thank you and to acknowledge their inconvenience. They can spend on what ever they like. If getting together is in the cards, thie gift card is a nice way to break the ice.

[Brian72]

As a neighbor, just ask or say sorry for the inconvenience. Don't buy me anything PLEASE! I don't want to feel like I need to reciprocate if I'm up to no good. A friendly neighborhood get together would be ok but I'm betting by now you have a feel for your neighbors if they would come or not. If you question it, move on and don't do anything. There will be times your neighbors will be making lots of noise to sometime. Call it what it is.

 

Another reason not to move to town. Fecking neighbors are to close. 

Agreed. I hate it when people buy or bring me stuff.

The gift card thing would be weird for me if I was the neighbor on the receiving end.

I'd much rather have someone come over and just say "hey man, I know it's been a little loud lately and I'm sorry. If you want to hang some time bbq and beverages are on me"

And leave it at that.

 

Also this.

Edited by Brian72, 25 January 2023 - 06:07 AM.

[Big Nake]

Not all neighbors want to be personable. Inviting them over could put them an uncomfortable spot.

 

A gift card is the neutral way to a show a sincere thank you and to acknowledge their inconvenience. They can spend on what ever they like. If getting together is in the cards, thie gift card is a nice way to break the ice.

I'm inclined to agree with this because for some people, the possibility of social interaction might be worse than the noise I've been making.    And I'm basing that on what I have seen in the past 14+ months.  No one seems to be overly friendly or eager to hang out.  The one couple with the bar in their garage seem very friendly and social to me but they're not right next to me and they have not heard noise from me.  My building has one unit at the front facing the street and then four units behind it.  I'm in the middle.  I have not met the people who live at the front end but I have waved and I think the woman saw me in the convertible once and said, "Perfect day for that!".  I have also never met the people all the way at the other end.  Never even seen them.  There is now a place that's vacant and I assume it will be sold soon and when someone moves in I'll make a point of saying HI.  That's just me.  

[BlKtRe]

Have you considered a jelly of the month club. Nothing could go wrong there

 

What's the difference between jelly and jam? 

[Ineedacatscan]

You're all wildly overthinking this whole thing. 

[TonyBrown]

I think if they aren't complaining to you about the noise then they aren't upset about it, no need to give any gift aside from my a handshake and a quick word or thanks.