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#1 weep er

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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:09 PM

Give me some verbiage! Should I call? Is Email ok?

The recruiter called me with the offer, very excited, though I mentioned early on that I was interviewing elsewhere. Since I was on the spot, over the phone I told him that another offer came through and I would be reviewing both to see what was best.

I told a little white lie... “I’m leaning towards your offer but I still need to compare both.”

:blush:

I’m 100% sure I don’t want to go with them. There’s no question.


What’s the PH protocol ? You never know when you may need a company so I want to leave them with the best impression.
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#2 TonyBrown

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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:13 PM

from what I'm gathering from my brothers interviewing efforts, companies just fvcking ghost your ass if they dont want you.  none of the (imho) appropriate declines.  They dont even say "thanks for the time but we've decided to go a different way".

 

fvck em, just ghost their asses, that's what they'd do to you if the ball was in their court.  feckers have not common courtesy anymore.

 

:stabby:  :stabby:


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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:14 PM

"I've decided to go a different direction."
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#4 ER Pemberton

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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:16 PM

I think you just be honest and say that you have other offers that are more to your liking at the moment.  No need to sweat your "decline language".  If you feel that you need to sweeten it, you can say that you had multiple offers and that you were VERY receptive to THEIR offer but in the end you chose something else.  Nice work Weep.



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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:20 PM

Ask for a ridiculous amount of money.
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#6 BrewerGeorge

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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:27 PM

Yeah they don't care and don't remember. Just say "No thanks." Use whatever method of communication that has been your primary during the interaction.

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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:31 PM

Ask for a ridiculous amount of money.
:)


I’ll be honest, I wasn’t really impressed by anyone in their organization. More money wouldn’t have won me over.

They just seem very corporate and not down to earth.

Yeah they don't care and don't remember. Just say "No thanks." Use whatever method of communication that has been your primary during the interaction.


I want to just shoot the guy a text lol.

from what I'm gathering from my brothers interviewing efforts, companies just fvcking ghost your ass if they dont want you. none of the (imho) appropriate declines. They dont even say "thanks for the time but we've decided to go a different way".

fvck em, just ghost their asses, that's what they'd do to you if the ball was in their court. feckers have not common courtesy anymore.

:stabby: :stabby:


This absolutely happened to me multiple times. It’s really unprofessional. I’m the applicant, expected to be pro, but they can act like assholes? I blame Millennials
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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:31 PM


This absolutely happened to me multiple times. It’s really unprofessional. I’m the applicant, expected to be pro, but they can act like assholes? I blame Millennials

same


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#9 ER Pemberton

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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:31 PM

I want to just shoot the guy a text lol.

No Thx Bro!  :D



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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:32 PM

NOTHXKBYE
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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:33 PM

r u srs? gtfo
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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:39 PM

Many places don't even contact you if you're not considered.  I know that many will contact you but they seriously act like ass monkeys and expect you to be as professional as possible.  I say Weep gets all pro-FRESH-onal on their ass.  :lol:



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Posted 14 August 2019 - 02:55 PM

Well I really need to add / I’ve talked to this guy 20 mins at a time, once a week for 3 weeks or so. I’ve never had a recruiter guide me through the process as much as this guy did.

I’ll call him tomorrow morning.


There was another place that offered me feedback and I took them up on it... once they got back to me, they said they “wanted someone with more payroll experience.” Clearly just a generic answer, since I started my payroll career in 1997.. sorry I didn’t meet your 25 year payroll requirement. ;)


I will say there are quite a few companies that send automated rejection letters soon after they receive my resume. It helps to be shot down early

Edited by weep er, 14 August 2019 - 02:59 PM.

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#14 Vagus

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Posted 14 August 2019 - 03:03 PM

I'm vegan, stop calling me.


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Posted 14 August 2019 - 03:59 PM

The one interview I had near Philly was put together by a recruiter who seemed to take personal offense at me turning it down.
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Posted 14 August 2019 - 04:01 PM

The one interview I had near Philly was put together by a recruiter who seemed to take personal offense at me turning it down.

Sure. You probably cost him a few Grand.

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Posted 14 August 2019 - 04:06 PM

*gland
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Posted 14 August 2019 - 04:12 PM

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#19 Vagus

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Posted 14 August 2019 - 04:40 PM

Lol
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#20 Patrick C.

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Posted 14 August 2019 - 07:11 PM

Well I really need to add / I’ve talked to this guy 20 mins at a time, once a week for 3 weeks or so. I’ve never had a recruiter guide me through the process as much as this guy did.

I’ll call him tomorrow morning.

 

 

Call him up and matter-of-factly explain that you don't think the job is right for you, so thanks but you'll have to decline the offer.  Then, ask him out.  With all that conversation already it will be like a second date.


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