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#1 badogg

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:16 PM

So I'm going to give a brief summary about something without a bunch of details.  I ask that you refrain from judgement because I'm not going to rehash any of the history behind this.  Just know it was a real shitty situation and decisions had to be made before someone ended up in the hospital, jail, or dead, that's how shitty it all got a long time ago.

 

So here goes...

 

 

About 24 years ago before I met my wife I ended up hooking up with my ex from high school for a bit.  She was bouncing between me and another guy (from high school that he and I never got along) at the time even though telling both of us that she was done with the other.  She ended up pregnant.  She tells me then disappears, I track her down to the other guys mobile home, he charges out with a bat, etc, etc.  I still keep trying to contact her via phone and she finally calls me back one day telling me that she doesn't know who the dad is but she just knows that she has a future with the kid and I aint in it.  So after the couple of incidents and what she said I just lived my life.

 

Fast forward about 6 years and she tracks me down and has all of a sudden decided that I was the dad and this and that.  I told her to feck off as I had already built my life and she made those decisions for everyone way back then.  Well about 6 to 8 months ago this kid (now 23) messaged me on Facebook and he and I actually had a chat about things.  It was a good conversation to have with him, he wanted to hear it straight from me what happened way back when rather than the BS he was being told about it from his mom and others.  So I gave it to him, and he thanked me for it.

 

About 10 mins ago I got a facebook message from his mom that he died on Sept 3 from an accidental overdose of some methadone drink.  She said she is 100% sure it was accidental as he had just completed school and got his aircraft mechanics license and had a good job and girlfriend, and that his girlfriend and best friend said he was happy and excited about his future.

 

So that's it.  I'm kind of a weird mess right now.

 

For those on Facebook with me, keep it off there please.


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#2 badogg

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:22 PM

I'm sorry to hear this, Bay.

Do you feel that this kid was yours, biologically? Either before or after you had contact with him?

No doubt it's a mind ####.

 

After I talked to him I pretty much had no doubt.  He sent me a pic of him and he looks just like me and it was like I was talking to myself.


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#3 Deerslyr

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:24 PM

So sorry to hear this.  I really have no words other than I am sorry and will keep everyone in my thoughts and prayers.  Here for you if you need.  


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#4 Ineedacatscan

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:26 PM

I'm sorry to hear that. That's terrible. We're all here for you.
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#5 MyNameIsLuka

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:31 PM

Damn bro. Im sorry to hear that.
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#6 Julius H Gardetto

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:32 PM

Crap. Sorry man. Let us know if you need anything.
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#7 El Cucuy

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:36 PM

Damn... Sorry to here this B.. vibes
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#8 inv

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:39 PM

That's horrible


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#9 Zaphod_Beeblebrox

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:42 PM

My condolences. That is heart wrenching. So sorry you have to go through this.
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#10 Brian72

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:44 PM

Man, vibes! I'd be a hot mess as well...
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#11 ER Pemberton

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:47 PM

Wow. Seriously vibes and thoughts in your direction.

Man, vibes! I'd be a hot mess as well...

Good to see you, B72.

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:47 PM

Bummer
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#13 BFB

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:49 PM

Vibes
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#14 TonyBrown

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:50 PM

Vibes bro
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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:55 PM

Be patient and forgiving with yourself. Know that you cannot change the past....the future is yours to control. Too bad you did not have an opportunity to send flowers or something to the funeral or make a donation to honor his memory. I'd feel good that he was excited and confident about his future..he just made a mistake :( We all make mistakes, unfortunately some turn out really bad. You are a good man and have a wonderful wife and family. Prayers for you and that in the days ahead you feel his, and Christ's comforting Presence.

Edited by AUGIE1991, 13 September 2017 - 03:56 PM.

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#16 Beejus McReejus

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:58 PM

Damn....prayers, bro.
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#17 toonces

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 03:59 PM

Damn, dogg.  Vibes, bro.  That's all I got.  


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#18 badogg

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 04:04 PM

Bummer

 

Yeah, totally.  Bummer :sarcasm:


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#19 djinkc

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 04:14 PM

That's a lot to have dropped on your lap.  Sorry..........


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#20 BeersBeers24/7

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Posted 13 September 2017 - 04:18 PM

Vibes and prayers man
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